As I’ve been following the accusations against powerful men over the past few months, a couple things have come clear to me regarding so-called sexual abuse. I’m no psychologist, but I’ve been observing the human race, and the behavior of the male of the species in particular, for most of my 83.8 years, and I’ve noticed there are two kinds of “abusers” in general. There are the losers who are abusive in order to gain control of women; these men seem to feel inadequate and use their superior strength, loud voices, and the threat of forced physical intimacy as weapons to stay in control.